Here are my favorite books which I’ve read and recommend
Program or Be Programmed
https://www.amazon.com/Program-Be-Programmed-Commands-Digital/dp/159376426X
Codependent No More
https://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025
I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t)
https://www.amazon.com/Thought-Was-Just-but-isnt/dp/1592403352